Lesson 4 All

There are generally two types of mindset when it comes to the prospect of being in a serious, loving relationship with someone. There are those who are quite content being independent and single, they perceive a relationship as a bonus, should someone special enter their life. They are quite self-sufficient and by no means need to have a relationship. They, by and large, are open the idea, should life bring them in that direction.

Then there are those who crave a relationship. They yearn for a relationship, to such an extreme, that they make an unwise choice that leads to sadness, dissatisfaction and broken hearts. The majority of the adult single population fit into the later way of thinking. Desiring a loving, nurturing and safe relationship, they do it: they settle.

Settling is entering into a relationship with a less than desirable mate for the sake of escaping the single life. It is quite common and only inevitably leads down a road of frustration. Caught up in the swirl of desperately trying to find "the one" and the constant ticking of the clock reminding people that they are getting older by the moment, can cause this to happen.

New Rules 4 Your Relationship

This particular rule was made popular by Joe Soucheray, a radio commentator in St. Paul, but I believe Paul Harvey said it as well. Here's the rule simply put: guys, (and this is a rules for guys only) if you have a fifty percent chance of getting something right, you'll make the wrong choice ninety percent of the time. I've also heard it as eighty percent but that's the absolute lowest percentage. So, how does it work?

Let's say your wife sends you to the store to buy bread. After your cart is brimming over, you get to the bread section. Of course with so many varieties of bread, you're in a bigger quandary now than before you went into the store. In the bread aisle, there is white, wheat, 12 grain, 7 grain, whole wheat, honey wheat, cracked wheat, potato bread, bagels, English Muffins, sourdough, and a whole host of others. The choice really is between white and wheat. Save the 12 grain for when your wife is with you in the supermarket. You do not like wheat but she does. Since you have others to feed in the family, such as your six children, you have to consider them as well. They won't eat the brown wheat bread, but your wife likes the wheat bread. What do you do? You can make a case for the white since that's what you and the kids will eat. Wheat bread is also a good option because that is what your wife will chow down on, so you do the logical thing (no, don't call her on her cell from the store). You get both. In fact, since white is cheaper, you get a couple of loaves.

Of course, your wife will not be pleased that you spent money on both kinds of bread, but she's not the one trying to be part of the ten percent who gets it right. And as you can see, you didn't get it right because you chose both.

Better luck next time.

Wisdom Quotes

There are few things that will make you lose 'kudos' faster than an insincere romantic pick up line. Insincerity can be heard, felt, smelt, observed and quickly left behind.

Anyone who compliments a person insincerely sounds false because it comes out not only in the voice but in the facial expression, the eyes and the person giving the compliment's whole body language reeks of dishonesty. The 'smell' stinks.

This is another occasion when Grandmas advice of "If you have nothing nice to say then say nothing at all" is priceless. Talk about the weather, or whatever is happening around you but unless you really, really mean the compliment, don't bother saying it.

But if you think she has nice hands, then it's nice to tell her so. If a girl thinks a guy has nice hands too it's good to say so sincerely. Women notice men's hands the same way men notice women's hands. Hands in a relationship are important. After all, the hope is that one day those hands will be fondling you so if they look rough or uncared for then they may not be so nice to have on your body. There are heaps of nice things that you may notice about your new friend and so long as the compliment is sincere it is a romantic pick up line.

It is these romantic pick up lines that we all remember sitting on that porch in a rocking chair. Make them worth remembering so that your compliment will last a lifetime